Just When You Thought You Had it All Figured Out...

Just When You Thought You Had it All Figured Out...

Thoughts on life, spirit and joy... by Trina Ramsey

Stop Playing it Safe!!

In my opinion, one of the biggest mistakes people make is to let fear, doubt and other factors keep them from taking risks. It’s scary to take on a new challenge, especially a big one. As a coach my mission is to work with people in the pursuit and realization of their dreams. And one of the biggest killers of dreams is negative self-talk.  I’ve done it. Honestly – I still do it. We all do. We just need the tools, confidence and support to learn how to reprogram ourselves to overcome the things that hold us back.

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I have shared with some of you how my own self-doubt stopped me from even considering entering the field of coaching the first time I thought about it. It took four years and the influence of a fantastic weekend experience to open me up to really embrace what I consider my true calling in life.  And I haven’t regretted it!


So let’s talk about YOU. Are you going for it? If so, I’d love to hear about it! I’m always looking for success stories!  If not, what’s holding you back? Take a moment and think about it.  If you journal, this might be a good time to take a few notes. 


But first I have a few success stories to tell you.

  • I recently met a woman in her 60s who embraced a mid-life career as a painter after raising her family.  She recently held an art show at her home. She is really talented - I even bought a piece! More importantly, I can tell that she is having the time of her life!


  • I had a wonderful conversation with my cousin last week. She and I talk semi-regularly about our goals and dreams. She shared with me a huge decision to move away from her office job to embrace her true calling of traveling the world to promote conflict resolution through art with youth. I’m so excited for her!


  • I have two good friends who left their 9-5 jobs to pursue coaching practices. I’m looking forward to that day myself!


So let’s get back to YOU. Again, if you are journaling, get your pen and paper out. Or just take a few minutes to answer this series of questions:


Is there something you have been meaning to “get around to” in order to pursue your dreams? Is it a career change? Or maybe it’s a decision that your spouse, family or friends may not approve of. Let me ask you this: whose life is it anyway?


What's your passion? Do you know right away? Or is your answer something like this: "I haven't thought about it in a long time." Or worse: “I don’t have any passions.”  If this sounds like you, I am sad to inform you my friend, that you are letting life pass you by. If you are happy with your life, and the idea of change or risk is just too scary for you… that’s understandable.  But be sure that it’s a choice you are actively making to “stay in your lane” and play out the hand you were dealt.  As long as it’s YOUR choice, and not fear or doubt convincing you it’s the “safe thing to do”.


If you know what your passion is, do you take time to enjoy it? Or do you let fear or other things hold you back? Is your excuse, "I don't have time?" When will there be enough time if you don't make it a priority? Time is like money - a finite resource. And we choose how to spend them both. Are you choosing wisely or letting life and circumstances make your choices for you?


What are you willing to do to pursue your dreams? So let’s get practical.  The only way to effect change in your life is to act. To make conscious steps forward. In order to make your dreams a priority it will cost you time, energy, and more likely than not, some money. You’ve got to have ‘skin in the game’.  Are you ready? Here are a few tips:


  • A new year is coming. Take advantage of the natural tendency to take things to the next level for the New Year. But don’t wait until January. Get started now!


  • Take time alone regularly to reflect and journal about what is working in your life, and what you want to achieve. If you are already working on pursuing your dreams, use this time to plan next steps and evaluate.


  • Surround yourself with like-minded people who will support you and champion your goals. The quickest way to make a goal real is to tell someone about it.  Trust me – it works!


  • Take one small step you toward your goal. Make it small enough that you can achieve it in the next 24 hours. Then DO IT! If you are so moved – email me and tell me about it at tramsey43@gmail.com


Here’s to the journey.  Live. Life. Fully. Tomorrow is not promised!


Much love, Trina


Need a little inspiration?

I developed some new programs that I think will help! Free conference calls starting in November, and workshops starting in January! Choose from three tracks: Career Exploration, Cultivating the Adventurer’s Spirit, and Embracing Change. To stay up to date and subscribe to my eNewsletter, visit my website: http://www.trinaramsey.com/#!contact

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