Just When You Thought You Had it All Figured Out...

Just When You Thought You Had it All Figured Out...

Thoughts on life, spirit and joy... by Trina Ramsey

Are you fed up yet?

    Are you enjoying your life? Or is there a nagging feeling that “there’s got to be more than this?”  Today we will explore the two extremes of frustration verses contentment, and how each can help you get what you want out of life.  If you had to rate your life on a scale of 1 to 10, what number would you choose? What would you do differently? What goals remain attained? What problems need to be addressed sooner rather than later?


The Value of Discontent

Life is like a roller coaster.  There are highs and lows, dips and curves. It can be thrilling and nauseating all at once.  But it’s your perspective that matters the most.  Is your glass half full or half empty?  And if you are really discontent, what are you going to do about it? No really… are you ready to put a stake in the ground and make a change? Or will you let days and weeks continue pass without taking the steps necessary to get what you want out of life?  


Sometimes we can be upset about things, but not uncomfortable enough to change.  When the pain of keeping things the same is greater than the work required to change things – when we get FED UP – we are then motivated enough to take action.  But why wait until you’re miserable to improve things? 


Choosing Contentment

You can CHOOSE to be content with your life. It seems so elusive but it really is all about a shift in mindset.  Paul found a way to be content and find value in his life, even from a prison cell. Are things that bad for you? We all have problems, but we all have blessings too. Here are two keys to choosing contentment.


  • Focus on the good. What’s good in your life? What makes you happy? Who are the people who make a big difference in your life? Count your blessings. As we all know, things could be much worse.  If you haven’t done so before, consider keeping a gratitude journal. Each day write down 3-5 things you are grateful for. Begin focusing on the good. What you focus on expands. 


  • Don’t be a victim. Victim mentality is debilitating.  Victims choose a powerless stance by not taking responsibility. Some choices are harder than others. Are you in a bad relationship? Choose today to either invest in making it better, or walk away. If you CHOOSE to stay, then you CHOOSE to accept responsibility for your happiness by doing whatever you can to make that relationship succeed.  If it’s already to late, don’t waste another moment of your life telling yourself the lie that you don’t have options, because I’m here to tell you from personal experience, YOU DO.  Choose yourself.  Then act on it. 


  • What about your work situation? Are you in a job that you hate? Do you daily go through a litany of what others are doing to make life miserable for you? Again, this is a powerless perspective. Are you doing everything in your power to make it a good experience? Or have you given up and don’t really invest in doing your part? Maybe it’s just time to go. I believe that we spend too much time working to not have it be a good experience. If you are not happy with your current job and are not actively taking steps to get another one, or decide what you'd really like to do that is more fulfilling, then you are choosing to stay unhappy.  Inaction is a CHOICE not to take action.  Make a choice. Leave or stay. Only you know what’s best. And you have to trust yourself. Sometimes deciding to seek contentment in a situation that is less than ideal can turn things around. Whatever your choice, own it, and shift your actions to follow suit.  Check in with yourself 30 days later. I’d love to hear how it goes!  


    My prayer for you – that you will live a life that his happy, prosperous, and full of joy – with FEW REGRETS! Carpe diem! 

    If you are ready to take a step forward email me or give me a call at 202-384-0797. I look forward to hearing from you!


Peace and blessings, 



PS. If you liked this piece and want to hear more, please email me and I will add you to my eNews list.  

Blog Stats

  • Total posts(22)
  • Total comments(15)

Forgot your password?