Just When You Thought You Had it All Figured Out...

Just When You Thought You Had it All Figured Out...

Thoughts on life, spirit and joy... by Trina Ramsey

What the World Needs Now: LOVE. Join our Kindness Challenge!!


Trina Ramsey & Russ Terry, Life Coach Radio Networks



“What the world needs now is love, sweet love.  It’s the only thing that there’s much too little of.”

 Bert Bacharach/Diana Ross


As we approach Valentine’s Day, a group of coaches from Life Coach Radio Networks decided to work on shifting the energy in the world – one person, and one action, at a time.

There are bad things that are going on in the world.  Wars. Sickness. Political stagnation and back biting. Violence. Racism and other prejudices. It’s enough to make you pull the cover over your head. But the great thing about living an empowered life is that we can CHOOSE our response to negativity.

Life Coach Radio Networks is proud to announce a new initiative:


One Love. One People. Kindness in Motion.

We are inviting positive people all over to join us in a 10 Day Kindness Challenge.  Join us by dedicating 10 days to being nicer, kinder, and more loving – through specific person-to-person actions.

Each day, do something nice for another person. It can be a stretch… like buying something significant for a family in need, or providing a homeless person with a meal (instead of spare change), or a recent trend to give a 100% tip (how cool is that). Or it can be simple. Pay a compliment. Smile. Initiate conversation with a co-worker that you were at odds with. Forgive a family member who wronged you.  And once you take on the challenge – pay it forward. Invite 2 or 3 people to do the same.  If you want to share on social media feel free. Or do it in a smaller, more anonymous way. But let’s do something good. 



There are many benefits to being nice. It reduces stress, helps you feel more connected and increases your lifespan.  People who are more generous experience less depression and improve relationships.See The Benefits of Generosity, Lisa Firestone


Also, we all know that forgiveness is more for the person who is doing the forgiving than the offender.  Smiling releases endorphins, which helps us feel less stress, and releases the harmful stress hormone cortisol. See7 Benefits of Smiling and Laughing, Jennifer Smith  So clearly, doing something for others is equally beneficial to ourselves. 



But above all that, the world is hurting right now. We live in an age of instant gratification, stress, and constant exposure to all the negative news. Our media outlets stress the bad more than the good, which can contribute to why people are feeling like things are just bad all over. We need to restore hope in humanity – in our inherent goodness.  That we ALL MATTER – no matter what our race, income or sexual orientation.  I AM YOU. And YOU ARE ME. 

Join us, won’t you? Let’s do something GOOD…. TOGETHER.  Visit http://www.lifecoachradionetworks.com/1love1peoplekindnessinmotion/ for details.



Russell Terry, Jr.  Founder & Executive Producer, Life Coach Radio Networks, Author of My Gratitude Journal

Trina Ramsey, Career & Life Coach, Host of “Career Talk with Coach Trina” on Life Coach Radio Networks  www.trinaramsey.com

Where is the love?

These words are from the song, "Where is the Love", by the Black Eyed Peas.  Very fitting indeed... 


A lot is going on in our world right now. We are becoming more and more divided, and less and less tolerant of one another. And people are dying at the hands of those who should be protecting them. Nations are turning against nations, and friends and family members are at odds about the “right way” to handle things. And social media and traditional media is whipping us up into a frenzy.  It’s nuts.  And it doesn’t have to be.


I am one of those people that can sometimes annoy others with my optimism. I find a way to look on the bright side or lend an encouraging word. But to be honest, I am struggling right now.  And while I’m trying to stay informed, I am avoiding those talking head shows like the plague – because the producers inevitably pit people with vastly opposing views against one another and they slug it out with words – analyzing and replaying what has happened when the truth is – we have to move FORWARD from here. 


Today I’m going to contrast two emotions:  Fear vs. Love.



Fear breeds mistrust and distances people. I see you as my enemy instead of my potential ally.  I am in a “fight or flight” posture, and when things get heated, I will fight (or shoot) first and ask questions later.  Every man (or woman) for him/herself.  This is a lonely, disempowered and diminished existence.



Love promotes openness and understanding.  I see you first and foremost as another human being.  I trust you first, and assume the best. And when we disagree, I work with you to find a place of mutual understanding so that we can move forward.  This is a much more empowered stance, and tends to help people to move forward and seek unity.


Here’s the thing:  We will NEED TO WORK TOGETHER to get to the other side of this. And we will need to learn how to see the commonalities in one another instead of the difference.  As Steven Covey states, “seek first to understand, then to be understood”.  United we stand, divided we fall… all that good stuff.  The problems of our nation and our world are so huge that it can be difficult to imagine workable solutions. But look to South Africa where apartheid was the norm until a different way was imagined, and until the collective will of the people set things in motion to create lasting change in that country.  Look to Germany, where world leaders got to the point of tearing down a wall that divided the country for many years. Real change can happen, but we must be open to it. We must first put our fears aside and open ourselves up to love.



It’s the holiday season, where people find ways to be more generous, loving and caring.  I am issuing this challenge to you, and invite you to pay it forward.  While you are going about your day to day life, take the 10 Day Kindness Challenge.  Each day, do something nice for another person. It can be a stretch… like buying something significant for a family in need, or providing a homeless person with a meal (instead of spare change), or a recent trend to give a 100% tip (how cool is that). Or it can be simple. Pay a compliment. Smile. Initiate conversation with a co-worker that you were at odds with. Forgive a family member who wronged you.  And once you take on the challenge – pay it forward. Invite 2 or 3 people to do the same.  If you want to share on social media feel free. Or do it in a smaller, more anonymous way. But let’s do something good. 



In love and peace, 


The Number One Killer of Dreams



What is the number one killer of dreams?

... Insecurity? 

... Laziness? 

... Lack of drive? 

All of those things can contribute to us not getting what we want out of life.  But in my opinion, the biggest factor keeping us from pursuing our dreams is a simple 4-letter word....fear.


Fear attacks us from all sides. We’re afraid to fail, afraid to not do “what’s expected of us”, afraid of looking bad, afraid to succeed! We’re afraid of losing money, prestige, standing in the community. Afraid of what “they” will think of us.


So we ignore our inner voice. We stuff down the yearning inside of us. We play it safe. We stay in our lane. And life goes on… and on… and on.


And sometimes, most of the time, things work out ok.  And that’s fine. Except for that nagging voice that always wonders “what if”.  What if I had gone for that promotion, moved to another city or country, found the courage to leave a bad relationship or a job I detest instead of settling for “it’s better than nothing”?


But sometimes the nagging sensation eats at us, and we slowly over time realize that “there’s got to be more to life than this”. Yet we allow our fear to keep us trapped in that smaller, safer place. And we become miserable. And we may in turn make the other people in our lives miserable too.



I’m on a mission y’all.  I want to inspire and support people to push past their fear and say “yes” to themselves. I know what it’s like to say “no” to my inner voice, who quietly prodded me to try something new. And I shut her down… QUICKLY (in 30 seconds flat - to be specific).  


And now I also know what it’s like to say “yes” to myself and pursue my gift.  No I’m not a millionaire, and this is still a “side gig” for me.  But let me tell you… I’m having a BALL!  If you’ve listened to my radio show or been to one of my workshops, I’m sure it’s pretty evident.  And THIS feeling is what I feel called to help others achieve.  Because at the end of the day, we only get one crack at this thing called life.  And I’m determined to squeeze every drop out of it. 


Take a few minutes to ponder this…

We’ve got a little more than 90 days left in 2014.  What are you going to do with the rest of it? Try this exercise for me.  Are you game?  OK… Here we go.


Sit comfortably for 5 minutes and ponder these questions. If you want, write about it. Or just think. If now is not a good time, print this out and come back to it. Trust me – it’s worth it. 


1.   What do I want that I haven’t allowed myself to consider – for whatever practical reason (or out of fear)?


2.    What would change if I allowed myself to consider the POSSIBILITY of pursuing this thing?


3.    How do I feel right now even thinking about this?


4.    What ONE thing can I do that is within my power, time and resources, to make a positive impact in my life before 2014 ends?


What came up for you? Did that feel exciting or SCARY? Empowering? If you came up with something positive to do before 2014, I implore you to follow through on it – no matter how big or small.  Because here’s the bottom line.  Life ticks by… moment by moment… day by day... And we look up and it’s 10 years later.  Carpe Diem my friend! Seize this moment.  Who knows where this one decision will take you!


Today I just want to encourage you to think more about what’s possible in your life. And if this message encouraged you or caused even a tiny shift, I’d love to hear about it.  If you know someone who would benefit from this message, please forward it on.  


Pay it forward! 

Put Your Butt On The Line - New Program Fall 2014







I’m issuing a challenge to only 5 dedicated people to join me on a journey this fall.  I’m calling it a mastermind group for lack of a better word.  

I get great feedback on how encouraging my messages and radio shows are. I appreciate the support! But I am ready to  up my game in this realm. I get the most joy in making a real impact with people – in digging past the surface to what’s stopping you from succeeding. 

So I'm looking for a small group of people who are really ready to go for it – and have something specific that they want to change, improve, or launch.  You also must be READY TO PUT IN THE WORK. 


Put Your Butt on the Line! 

New group for people ready to create change in their lives.


  • Are you ready to make a change once and for all? 
  • Is there is something you’ve been going to do “one day” but haven’t gotten around to yet? 
  • Are you finally ready to begin the next phase of your life? 
  • What will take you to that next step?


I am starting a small group for people who have something specific to accomplish…. big or small. 


Maybe you want to go back to school, change careers or take that first step to launching your business. Or maybe you need to let some things go to make room to create something new, or you want to streamline your finances to begin saving for that dream vacation. Maybe you are ready to finally write that book you’ve been talking about.


Whatever it is, we will go through a systematic process to make sure that everyone is making progress – and you’ll have the support and accountability from the group.

Here's how it works: 

  • Virtual group: you can live anywhere and still participate. We'll have calls or online chats - and maybe a secret Facebook or Google group if people are interested. 


  • We'll launch in early October work over the course of 90 days. I will work with the group to develop our schedule of sessions (keeping holiday schedules in mind as well). 


  • We will commit to one another as a community and use a systematic approach to create, commit to, and work on a specific action plan for each person.


  • This will be an intimate group limited to 5 people. The first 5 people to enroll and pay get to go now - otherwise there's a wait


  • To apply contact me at tramsey43@gmail.com or 202-384-0797 to let me know you're interested, and I'll send you more details. The group will close after 5 participants are selected.



There is a fee of $500 to participate, including 3 payment plans, with discounts for paying up front/sooner. 

  • One payment of $400 (25% savings) if you pay 100% up froNT
  • Two payments of $225 (total of 450
  • 4 monthly payments of $125 (total of 500




We can do this... TOGETHER


You all know who I am.  I get it done.  I set goals and push to achieve them. I challenge myself. And no, things don't always go according to plan, but I’m willing to put my butt on the line and give it my all. I’ve studied under some amazing and powerful women and men over the past 5 years. I’ve learned some things that I use in my life that I want to share with you.  And I’ve learned to let go and have fun… to accept myself and my unique “quirkiness”, and to embrace all sides of myself… even the messy parts. I’ve also learned to have take time for myself and take better care of myself – even if it’s just a couple hours for a walk or a day trip, or an outing with the girls.


I know I take a lot on - but I honestly wouldn't have it any other way!  First of all, the grace of God sustains me and helps me to move forward even when things aren’t going as planned. But the other thing is I have truly found my PASSION in life – and that is making all the difference. Here’s the bottom line– I WANT THE SAME FOR YOU




I believe in living life to the fullest. Many of you are already A-types - supermoms & dads who do what they must for their families and communities. 


But sometimes you don’t do what you need to for YOURSELF. You've lost the passion for life and you’re on autopilot. And you have that ONE THING that you really want to do but haven’t made time/energy for.  If this sounds familiar, I invite YOU to join me this fall so we can build a plan to make it happen. If I can do it – so can you! 


I am going through a selective process to enroll people in this program, because I only want to work with people who are ready to put in the work. We’ll get started in early October, and we’ll build the schedule for sessions and timeline based on the participants' schedules – including allowing time for the holidays - so that it’s mutually convenient. 

 If this appeals to you, contact me and we’ll talk through the details.  Tramsey43@gmail.com.  




Not into groups?  Groups are not for everyone. I have room to take on 1-2 more clients in addition to this group.  f you like this concept but not the group coaching factor – contact me. We’ll work something out. 




My Desire Map Journey

I recently had a defining moment.  After following the phenomenal Danielle LaPorte for about a year, I recently joined the ranks of hundreds of sojourners who embraced her latest book: The Desire Map.  I became an affiliate and led a book club in the Washington DC area that launched in January.  It was an eye-opening experience! 


“Look Desire in the Eye.”

That was Danielle's challenge, and that's exactly what I did.  I consider myself a risk taker, but I mainly take calculated risks. This was new territory for me.  


It stretched me - in ways I didn't expect.  


I resisted at first. I'm a person of action. You know… “Get it done!” It was feeling too academic.  I didn’t like digging around for words. Help me create a plan! Also, as a book club leader - I was spending time making sure that people were getting what they need and prepping between sessions.  But I was also doing the work, absorbing Danielle’s words (her audio book is amazing – she puts so much of her personality into it!)


Now that a few weeks have passed since our last session, I’ve been able to really reflect on my own experience. I looked at the question “How do you want to feel?” countless times.  At first it feels selfish. As a mom, a life-long do-gooder and helper of others, it feels too decadent to focus inward so intensely. We definitely talked about that during the book club!  People described fighting feeling “selfish”. But it does not mean that you are forsaking others in pursuing your own growth.  Big difference.


In a nutshell. This is what I experienced:


FREEDOM.  I feel more open and less constrained about my choices. Not as worried about “what people will think” (this was HUGE for me). My ‘risk-taking’ muscle has been put to good use.  More action – more empowering, creative stuff. Loving it! It’s even impacted my approach to love and relationships.  Very freeing!


FOCUS. I’m showing up more in my business.  This includes getting rid of my concerns around self-promotion – and allowing myself to envision the day when I’ll be doing this full time (exciting!!!) But in the meantime, I have moved my business from “when I have time” to a more central part in my life. And it’s already paying off.


EXPRESSING more. I’m pursuing my blog talk radio show as part of the Life Coach Radio Network. It’s allowing that to be a platform for my career coaching business. And I’m meeting some fascinating people! I am having SUCH a good time!  To learn more about my show visit its home on Facebook. All the archived shows are there. Visit Career Talk with Coach Trina


My core desired feelings: 


Passionate, Joyous, Limitless! Abundance, Authentic.


Beyond defining these words for ourselves, Danielle pushes us to incorporate “how we want to feel” in every area of our life – being more intentional about how we set goals and plan our lives.  It’s a different take on it but I’m enjoying it. 


I still have work to do. I still feel fear, and constraints - primarily over money.  But I am finding myself being able to let go more about things quicker than I used to… partially because I am focused more on “how I want to feel” in the context of my larger life.  My passion for life has been reignited – in all areas.  It’s such a blessing!


ARE YOU READY to start YOUR Desire Map journey?

Learn more about the Desire Map (and get your own copy) here.  My prayer for you – that you get all you want in life, AND MORE. It’s not selfish. YOU DESERVE IT.

Much love, Trina

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